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    From NANCY BACKUS@1:123/140 to JOE MACKEY on Mon Nov 6 20:56:00 2017
    Quoting Joe Mackey to Joe Mackey on 11-05-17 07:58 <=-
    Nancy wrote --

    I'm glad that my sister took in our parents when it was getting too
    hard for Mommy to do Daddy's care

    I was fortunate in that neither of my parents suffered long.
    My father took ill and died within a few days, peacefully at home, surrounded by family. (I was 12 and had already gone to bed and told
    only later when my mother woke me to tell me).

    That's what I consider the ideal way to go... peacefully at home,
    surrounded by family... :)

    My mother had some heart related problems but was up and around,
    though in a wheelchair, the last years of her life and carried on as usual. She was in a home and kept the staff hopping. She thought one
    of her purposes was to make sure everyone around her was always busy
    doing something. :) She died peacefully when her heart gave out.

    My mother's mom was likewise in a home at the end... still quite a
    lively mind to the end.... we were told that she was sitting in her
    chair after breakfast one day and announced, I think I'll go home now,
    and then she was gone, just like that.... she was 94, I think...

    When my time comes I want to just drop dead and not be a burden to
    anyone.
    That would make things simpler, to be sure... ;) Not that we get much
    say in it... <G>

    I was telling this to someone once, who was a fan of Red Skelton's
    Mean Widdle Kid, who remarked I should make sure I wasn't in anyone's
    way since they might trip over me, fall and hurt themselves. :)

    Well.. yes, that would be a good idea, too... ;)

    And then there's the joke.... I want to die like my grampa, peacefully
    in my sleep... not like his screaming passengers.... <G>

    ttyl neb

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  • From joe mackey@1:154/30 to NANCY BACKUS on Wed Nov 8 07:53:45 2017
    Nancy wrote --

    JM>> My father took ill and died within a few days, peacefully at home,
    JM>> surrounded by family. (I was 12 and had already gone to bed and told
    JM>> only later when my mother woke me to tell me).

    That's what I consider the ideal way to go... peacefully at home, surrounded by family... :)

    I always joke I'll probably be found a while after the event when someone asks "Whatever happened to what's-his-name?"
    We had two people in the last couple of years who were found after they died in their apartments.
    One had been dead for a couple of weeks, and the bug man in his monthly inspection found one who had been dead for a few days.
    I asked the bug man if that were common and he said he's found several dead bodies over the years.
    He said the first couple of times it was shocking, but now its sort of "Oh, another one".
    Joe


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  • From NANCY BACKUS@1:123/140 to JOE MACKEY on Sat Nov 11 20:53:00 2017
    Quoting Joe Mackey to Nancy Backus on 11-08-17 07:53 <=-

    My father took ill and died within a few days, peacefully at home,
    surrounded by family.-a (I was 12 and had already gone to bed and told
    only later when my mother woke me to tell me).
    That's what I consider the ideal way to go... peacefully at home,
    surrounded by family... :)

    I always joke I'll probably be found a while after the event when
    someone asks "Whatever happened to what's-his-name?"

    You probably would benefit by having a friend look in on you
    regularly... or have someone you call or connect to just about
    daily.... :)

    We had two people in the last couple of years who were found after
    they died in their apartments.
    One had been dead for a couple of weeks, and the bug man in his
    monthly inspection found one who had been dead for a few days.
    I asked the bug man if that were common and he said he's found
    several dead bodies over the years.
    He said the first couple of times it was shocking, but now its sort
    of "Oh, another one".

    Yes, I remember you mentioning that before.... In an apartment complex
    there are not as obvious signs that someone might be in trouble as one
    might if living in a single family home.... where things like mail
    piling up might be visible from the street... or the mailperson might
    even notice....

    ttyl neb

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  • From joe mackey@1:154/30 to NANCY BACKUS on Mon Nov 13 06:46:50 2017
    Nancy wrote --

    JM>> I always joke I'll probably be found a while after the event when
    JM>> someone asks "Whatever happened to what's-his-name?"

    You probably would benefit by having a friend look in on you
    regularly... or have someone you call or connect to just about
    daily.... :)

    Probably be my captain wanting to know why I wasn't at work. :)

    might if living in a single family home.... where things like mail
    piling up might be visible from the street... or the mailperson might
    even notice....

    My snail mail is checked only every few days. For the most part its all junk
    mail, circulars, etc. When I was working regularly it was checked daily, but since retirement I sometimes don't leave the apartment for several days in a row (especially when its cold out), unless I have to be somewhere.
    Joe


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  • From Ed Vance@1:2320/105 to NANCY BACKUS on Mon Nov 13 16:49:00 2017
    11-11-17 20:53 NANCY BACKUS wrote to JOE MACKEY about Re: parents
    Howdy! Nancy and Joe,

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    Quoting Joe Mackey to Nancy Backus on 11-08-17 07:53 <=-

    My father took ill and died within a few days, peacefully at home,
    surrounded by family... (I was 12 and had already gone to bed and told
    only later when my mother woke me to tell me).
    That's what I consider the ideal way to go... peacefully at home,
    surrounded by family... :)

    I always joke I'll probably be found a while after the event when
    someone asks "Whatever happened to what's-his-name?"

    You probably would benefit by having a friend look in on you
    regularly... or have someone you call or connect to just about
    daily.... :)

    We had two people in the last couple of years who were found after
    they died in their apartments.
    One had been dead for a couple of weeks, and the bug man in his
    monthly inspection found one who had been dead for a few days.
    I asked the bug man if that were common and he said he's found
    several dead bodies over the years.
    He said the first couple of times it was shocking, but now its sort
    of "Oh, another one".

    Yes, I remember you mentioning that before.... In an apartment complex there are not as obvious signs that someone might be in trouble as one might if living in a single family home.... where things like mail
    piling up might be visible from the street... or the mailperson might
    even notice....

    A place that a relative of mine lived at had a Tag hanging on a hook on
    the outside of every door that was Brown on one side and Orange on the
    other side.

    Every person that lived there was asked to flip their Tag over each day
    to show that they were well.

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  • From NANCY BACKUS@1:123/140 to JOE MACKEY on Tue Nov 14 21:14:00 2017
    Quoting Joe Mackey to Nancy Backus on 11-13-17 06:46 <=-

    I always joke I'll probably be found a while after the event when
    someone asks "Whatever happened to what's-his-name?"
    You probably would benefit by having a friend look in on you
    regularly... or have someone you call or connect to just about
    daily.... :)

    Probably be my captain wanting to know why I wasn't at work. :)

    Except that now you are retired.... and unless he called you in to sub,
    you'd not be coming in anyway.... ;)

    might if living in a single family home.... where things like mail
    piling up might be visible from the street... or the mailperson might
    even notice....

    My snail mail is checked only every few days. For the most part its
    all junk mail, circulars, etc. When I was working regularly it was checked daily, but since retirement I sometimes don't leave the
    apartment for several days in a row (especially when its cold out),
    unless I have to be somewhere.

    Hmmm... putting you at risk for being one of those surprise finds....
    just have to keep yourself healthy, I guess... ;)

    ttyl neb

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  • From NANCY BACKUS@1:123/140 to ED VANCE on Tue Nov 14 21:33:00 2017
    Quoting Ed Vance to Nancy Backus on 11-13-17 16:54 <=-

    In an apartment complex there are not as obvious signs that someone
    might be in trouble as one might if living in a single family
    home.... where things like mail piling up might be visible from the
    street... or the mailperson might even notice....

    A place that a relative of mine lived at had a Tag hanging on a hook
    on the outside of every door that was Brown on one side and Orange on
    the other side.
    Every person that lived there was asked to flip their Tag over each
    day to show that they were well.

    I've known of senior facilities like that.... a friend of mine was at a
    place that had a similar system... :) And it makes a lot of sense to
    do something like that.... :)

    ttyl neb

    ... Murphy's law only fails when you try to demonstrate it.

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  • From Daryl Stout@1:19/33 to ED VANCE on Wed Nov 15 20:43:00 2017
    Ed,

    A place that a relative of mine lived at had a Tag hanging on a hook on EV>the outside of every door that was Brown on one side and Orange on the EV>other side.

    Every person that lived there was asked to flip their Tag over each day EV>to show that they were well.

    Interesting concept!!

    Daryl

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